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Your wedding is a day; a marriage is a lifetime. You don’t just want to be married, you want to be happily married. Have your past relationships adequately prepared you to be a good life partner for someone? Do you have the traits to be a good life partner?

If you get in to a relationship with someone that you like but he is not the right person for you then you will regret getting married to him sometime or the other in the future. You might even end up divorcing him if he is not the right one for you. So make sure that you find the right person before you decide to marry him.

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First, the foundation of any successful  is friendship.  Oh sure, there are marriages of convenience, marriages based on religious or cultural customs and marriages based on whim (think Las Vegas!).  But the simple truth is, most allsuccessful marriages that stand the test of time begin with true friendship.  So ingredient number one is to consider your mate as your best friend.

Be honest and evaluate the reasons behind your engagement. Sit down and write a pro/con list about your partner and your relationship. Your list will reveal your true feelings. Don’t get married to escape something in your life like fear, loneliness or insecurity. Make marriage a positive move.

Marriage is a partnership. Yes there will be times when we are faced with a hurdle but from the vantage point of two mature individuals, these are things that will strengthen the marriage, not something you blame your partner for. On that note, you should also be happy on your own. Completeness is not something that you find in another person (contrary to what Jerry Maguire said). Marriage is entered into by 2 people who feel complete on their own.

If you have been with the person long enough to feel like you can make it work then you should go ahead and get marry. There will be people that go into marriage feeling unsure and then getting a divorce later. You shouldn’t get into a marriage unless you’re sure about it. You should ask yourself a few things before you settle down so that you won’t regret the single life. You don’t wan to be so tie down that you’ll want to cheat on them later on either.

Creating a happy marriage is entirely dependent on your ability to communicate, and ultimately, your knowledge of yourselves and what you want as individuals. To make your partner aware of what you want and need, you have to share.

One of the major factors to know your lover totally is to get to know his family, his mother especially- have you heard the old saying “You will know a man by how he treats his mother?” it’s true, observe how he treats his mom and you will know how you will be treated.

It is also significant that you are grounded with his values and standards to know if both of you are on the same page. Opposites do attract but concerning things that matter its better if you and your lover are compatible. Furthermore, you know you are ready for marriage if you have liberated yourself of certain issues from your past and yourself.

Before you get too excited and jump into any marriage, first ask yourself if you are ready to be a wife or husband. Being a spouse is different than being a boyfriend, girlfriend or fiance. It requires new and more responsibilities and a lot more attention. Its not that you cannot continue to be independent, but you will have to share everything and everyone that is a part of your life if you want to have a trusting and open marriage.

Consider the financial stability. Money is indeed a big part of marriage. You will have to pay for the basic needs in life: rents, taxes, hospitalization, education of your children and of course your food. Discuss with your partner how you both will share the expenses, and whether you have saved enough money.

Your Situation Is Not Hopeless! You Can Get Your Relationship Back!

Will the habits of this person still be cute in 20 years? Sure, it might seem cute that he can eat an entire pizza by himself and makes jokes about being lazy, but do you want to be married to a man who puts himself at risk of leaving you and your children alone because he dies of a lifestyle-based heart attack? And maybe it’s cute that she is a take-charge feminist but your goal is to be the leader and head of your family as the man.

Just because you decide that marrying a certain person isn’t the best thing, it doesn’t mean that you think that person is rotten. It just means that you’re taking marriage seriously.

The success or failure of a marriage relationship may hinge on how well the couple deals with issues such as financial assets, communication, conflict, parenting, in-laws, leisure time, sexuality, family of origin, spirituality, expectations, and chores. Most couples don’t talk about these issues before they get married, and are surprised one or two years down the road when conflict seems more prevalent than romance.

Have you ever been in one of those situations where you see a man who catches your eye and causes your heart to skip a beat with excitement? It could be a guy that you see at work, around your neighborhood, in a grocery store, at school, or maybe at your local Starbucks. Regardless of the circumstances, you feel an instant attraction for this man and you’re wondering if he could possibly feel the same about you if given the chance.

Or maybe there is a man you already know who you’ve started to have more intense feelings for. Perhaps you socialize with him regularly or he could be a guy that you’ve gone out on a few dates with. The problem is that you’re starting to fall in love, but you’re afraid of scaring him away if he doesn’t feel the same. What can you do if you find yourself faced with one of these situations?

Be yourself!

The first rule to make him fall in love with you is to be yourself. If he will love you for something, let that be your special character and your extraordinary mind. Don’t pretend to be someone you are not. Don’t do anything that isn’t you. He’ll find out that you are faking as soon as you’ll be tired of pretending to be his dream woman and start being yourself. What will happen then? He might not like what he sees; he’ll feel betrayed, and he’ll probably run from you. After all, you do have enough self respect to be loved for what you really are, don’t you?

While you can’t and shouldn’t change who you are, you can present the aspects of yourself which your man finds most attractive in a partner. The second key then is to know yourself. Your strengths and weaknesses, from HIS viewpoint.

• Which parts of your personality he’s attracted to – so you can show them off
• Which parts of your personality turn him off – so you can downplay them
• Should you be coy or forward, talkative, reserved or intellectual?
• Does he prefer playful? Brazen? Sophisticated? Nurturing?
• How can you tell if he likes you or not?

Armed with the right information, you can press the right buttons. Without that information many people are their own worst enemy, assuming that others see things the same way that they themselves do.

The more you interact with someone, the more they’ll like you, says David Lieberman, a U.S. expert in human behavior. He’s right actually. Several studies show repeated exposure to practically any stimulus makes us like it more (the only time it doesn’t hold true is if our initial reaction to it is negative). So forget about being aloof, evasive, and unavailable in the beginning. Instead, find lots of excuses to spend time with him.

Now, pay attention, because this is the tricky part. Just when you’re convinced you’ve won them over and they like you, start being a little less available. And then even less, until they hardly see you at all. You’ve now effectively instigated the “law of scarcity.” We all know this one: people want what they can’t have and by constantly being available, you diminish your value. If every time you walked outside your front door there was a huge pile of diamonds to step over, you’d hardly see them as precious would you? The law of scarcity only makes them want you. Be around and then not around and they’ll want and like you.

You’ve got to make eye contact when you are engaged in conversation. People in a relationship make eye contact more than people who are just friends. It’s a great body language signal. It will consciously or subconsciously let him know you are interested. It has also been shown to trigger the release of chemicals in the body associated with love. By making eye contact you may actually be making him attracted to you.

Now it’s time talk for a while: act natural and charming. Remember that you should never criticize or complain, because it only has a negative effect. You should keep pushing and pulling: you tease him whenever he shows interest, but at the same time make him feel special. Don’t take it too far either: don’t reject him, and don’t sound needy!

Get interested in what he likes!

You don’t have to become the fan of his favorite football team, to dress only in the colors of his team or to force your cat to wear a neck bell that plays his anthem! It’s enough to care about him and to ask about his passions and things that interest him and, eventually, to spend your time next to him and to his ‘passion’.

Make him feel like he is the only man in the world for you. Whether it’s a small note wishing him a good day, a light caress or gentle kiss, make sure he feels like he is the only man in your world. Men like the women in their lives to make them feel special, and the woman who can do that will be the one he loves.

Do not be an easy catch for him. If he asks you out on any particular day, make excuses and show that you are busy. He must not feel he is the only priority in your life. This trick works always.

After you meet a woman and date her, you get to know her better. You probably start feeling closer to her and may even find yourself falling in love with her. But her feelings may still remain a mystery to you. You’re not even sure whether you’re doing things right. How can you get her to fall in love with you? Here are 10 ways that you can make a woman fall in love with you, and at the end of it, she’s sure to be crazy about you.

Show her how lovable you are. People don’t seem to systematically decide who they fall in love with. It often comes with time, and in that time you need to show the girl that you are worth being around. This is the fun part! The only way this will work, though, is if you believe, on at least some level, that you are lovable and worth being around. It’s very difficult to fall in love with someone who thinks badly of themselves.

The first dating idea for any man is to make a good impression. In your doing so, you don’t have to talk, dress or do the common things that all the Toms do to get a decent girl’s attention. Be unique, that’s all you need. Be a man of his own style. Dress decently – indecency can make one be mistaken for arrogance; watch your language – obscene language gives the impression of immaturity, being uncultured and cheap; be a man of good habits – don’t drink or smoke like any other loser.

Tell her she is pretty and that she’s nice to be with.  Women love compliments.   Do not ever flirt with other women when you’re on a date.   The girl you’re with should get all your attention.  But do not be a doormat either.  If she flirts with a lot of men or talks about all her boyfriends, don’t take her out again.   If you treat her with respect she should treat you with respect.

Eye contact really is so emotional and powerful that feelings of closeness and attraction skyrocket when we hold the gaze of another person. Why? It’s all in your head–literally, your brain. Staring into someone’s eyes lights up the brain regions that are associated with rewards.

Being more of a “friend” to them is important, going slow and not trying hard and NOT showing your true feelings for no matter what they say, women don’t really want to know how you feel about THEM.. for when they talk about “sharing feelings” to them it’s all about useless stuff… means how do you FEEL about politics, religion, that new movie that came out, this star, that star, this store, my new shoes, my hair…etc. The more a man tells a woman how he feels about HER or compliments her TOO much.. these are things that will turn her OFF because your no longer a challenge and are now in the “wimp” zone.

Don?t be cheap on your first date

Once you get to the dating stage with your special girl, splurge a bit – especially on the first date. Women are not impressed by cheap restaurants, they don?t think it?s too cool when you pull out coupons when to pay the waiter, and they will find you unimpressive if you ask them not to order the most expensive thing on the menu. In other words: don?t make her think that she is not worth full price.

Your Situation Is Not Hopeless! You Can Get Your Relationship Back!

Love cannot be forced. It is a natural culmination of the connection two people share. It’s true, there that there are things you can do to make women feel more attracted to you but for a woman to truly love you, you must be genuine and truly care for her. You may not love every woman you meet but for those few you find that you care about deeply, know that with the right attitude and genuineness, she can grow to love you too.

You should talk sense, a woman always want a man that is smart and has BRAINS! You should always give time for a woman… You should always call and take her out, even in a not so expensive place. Girls doesn’t want cheap men! Girls need assurance! You should always assure her you like or love her by telling it to her. Make sure you remember the important occasions in her life this is really a plus factor.

If you have recently come out of a relationship where your ex confessed he or she had fallen out of love with you, you no doubt are feeling crushed, confused and miserable. We never want to hear words of rejection from our loved ones and even worse if the break up came swift and unexpectedly. At this moment in time it is normal to feel a deep sense of lose and vulnerability, but the good news is the opportunity to rekindle their love and build a new relationship is far from impossible.

The truth is that people fall in love with someone because of how that someone makes them feel about themselves. So if you want to find out what it was that started it all, back at the beginning, ask your partner what you did that made them feel special, better or happier when you two first met and began dating.

You and your ex need to take at least a month to get over everything. The only times you should talk to each other is when you absolutely have to. Some exceptions would be if you work together, go to school together, have kids together, or the two of you are going through a divorce. When you do see your ex only talk about the subject at hand and nothing else. Do not talk about the break up, your feelings, and the past relationship.

Show your ex that you have changed by impressing them with your new ways and loss of your unfavorable, and you’ll be on your way to winning your ex’s heart. Try to be like how you were when you first met! Remember the person your ex fell in love with the first time? Think about why your ex left, may be you have changed drastically from the person he/she fell in love with!

Try talking to him/her again. Remember to keep conversations brief and not too revealing. A little mystery is very appealing. Also, if you are at a party and are talking to him, (making it brief), and your friends comes in the room. Stop mid sentence and go talk to them. Be like: Mackenzie! Over here! Turn to him and say: Talk to you later.

As with how things are now, you need to realize that your ex left you for a reason. You may feel compelled to plea for forgiveness and woo your way back into their heart. However know there is danger in doing so. At this crucial period it is imperrative that you respect your ex’s wishes and not force the issue of reconciliation upon them. They did not break up with you on a whim. They had strong and rational reasoning for breaking up with you and it is unlikely anything you say or do will change their mind.

Start making necessary changes in your life.
- The period that follows your breakup is a time to reflect on your most important resource: you. There may be areas in your life that need improvement such as negative habits and personal perspective on various situations. Once you have successfully overcome all of these obstacles, you will develop a sense of happiness and confidence. It will not be a surprise that your ex will notice a refreshing change in your personality. He/she will be attracted to you.

It is true, “We cannot love others, until we love ourselves.” How can we give to others what we have not received ourselves.  Receive love for yourself from yourself.  Accept yourself unconditionally.  Work to improve yourself, but love yourself still.  You need no one else to validate you or give you worth.  You have that all ready.  Believe it, and live it. And oddly enough, when you stop needing love from your ex, you ex will begin to give their love to you, and when you do get back together you will know what it means to have a healthy relationship

Take it slow and be determined to make it work:

Life not always like a fairytale. Rather, we all face real challenges, issues and constraints with which we must deal every day. Your effort to rekindle your love with likely hit some bumps in the road from time to time. That is okay. Keep at it, and have confidence in your heart that it can work again. Visualize it working in your mind’s eye, and then take the necessary steps to make it happen in your lives.

Falling back in love with your ex requires the full cooperation of your heart, mind and body. Focus on what matters to you, visualize making it work, and then keep at it until you achieve your goal. By taking the right steps, you just may be back in his or her arms in no time!

Knowing whether you are being lied to or not, does not require mind reading or psychic power. Understanding the difference between the truth and a lie can all be determined by a person’s behavior, and if you pay attention to these behaviors, you will be able to have a better idea of whether you are being lied to or not. The most important thing you should always remember to do however is to trust your instincts. If you feel you are not getting the entire truth from your partner for some reason, then listen to your instincts. Most people are in good touch with their instincts, but rather not listen to that inner voice because they refuse to believe that their partner.

Here are some warning signs of a cheating partner

• You can’t get your spouse to communicate with you.
• Your spouse gets very defensive if you mention infidelity or affairs.
• Your spouse is suddenly more attentive than usual.
• Your mate is working longer hours at work.
• Your spouse is dressing nicer, looking nicer.
• You notice charges on credit card statement that don’t make sense.
• Your spouse is indifferent to family events like birthdays and holidays.
• You find your partner has been lying to you about a variety of things.
• Money becomes more of an issue between the two of you.
• He/she doesn’t want to go anywhere or do anything with you anymore.

Deflecting Answers-A lying spouse will often try to deceive by not giving direct answers. One way to catch a cheater in the act of lying is see if they merely imply answers rather than directly giving an explanation.

Speech Patterns. When people are lying, they often speak hesitantly, in a higher pitch and they make more grammatical errors and slips of the tongue, than when they are telling the truth. Also, when people are lying, there are discrepancies or mismatches between their tone of voice and their facial expressions. Your partner may even cover his or her mouth while talking. It’s as if they’re subconsciously repressing the untruths they’re saying. It may be as blatant as completely concealing the mouth or as subtle as a single finger placed in front of the lips.

Gets Defensive

High levels of defensiveness are often a huge red flag that something isn’t quite right. The defensiveness typically stems from the fact a person knows they are lying and are desperately trying to move away from that fact.

By getting defensive the person lying may feel if they escalate the situation and deflect the attention, they can walk away and play angry or act with indignation. Whatever the case, the defensiveness is a triggered response to get the person lying out of the immediate danger of being discovered in untruths.

One important thing to remember is that the body never lies. If there are changes in the way your partner moves (or not moves) his/her arms, hands, head and the way his/her eyes shift, then you are most likely being lied to. The reason the body language changes when a person is lying is because the person now has to think of a way to seem convincing that he/she is telling the truth. Since he/she knows that whatever they are telling you is a lie, the behavior automatically changes, because they are now trying to act truthful, instead of actually being truthful. One big sign to look out for is in the eyes. If your partner avoids eye contact with you, then he/she is lying to you. There is a fear that you will see through him or her if there is eye contact, so eye contact will be avoided.

Whether your partner‘s schedule is subtle or obvious, because you’ve gotten to know it, you should be tuned in to any type of change, which is one of the biggest signs that your lover is lying. A partner who is cheating is going to have to work out the logistics and schedule some new time for this new lover. As the amount of hours in a day is obviously the same, that new time is coming out of your time together.

Ask for specifics. Oftentimes, people talk in vague terms when they lie. Press him for specific details. If he’s suddenly at a loss and doesn’t have answers, he could be lying. If he provides details, listen for contradictions. Liars often have a hard time keeping their details consistent.